By Certified Action Coach Dave Beam
One of the great joys that I experience as a business coach is helping people unravel and dispel their fears. Today, I will help you do that as you read and understand.
We have a simple flip chart concerning fear. False Expectations Appearing Real. Here is an astonishing reality. You can be a fearless person. Being fearless is not being some kind of super hero. It is in reality just being who you really are. I hope I have your attention.
First, to enjoy being fearless, you must understand the source of fear. The source of fear is your brain. It is an emotional response to your thoughts. Fear does not come from the outside and attack you. Fear is not produced by circumstances or happenings. Fear is a response based on what you think about, believe, and expect. To unravel and dispel fear, you must understand that fear is all made up. It is a response based on your expectations and beliefs.
Second, to enjoy being fearless, you must understand truth. Fear thrives on what is false. The truth dispels fear. Balance the checkbook. Go to the doctor. Talk to that employee. Ask the “difficult” question, and get out of denial. It is what it is. It is not what you think it is. You can’t successfully deal with illusions. Face the facts of your circumstance, and forsake all projections and myths and stories about the future. Drop all stories, myths, and expectations of other people. Just the facts; no more; no less.
Third, to enjoy being fearless, you must take action. Fear thrives in inactivity. Worry and anxiety are just other forms of fear. Fear is self focused and self centered. Shift your mind and energy to what you CAN do, and do it. What can you do to address the current situation.
Fourth, to enjoy being fearless, you must choose optimism and happiness. Again, optimism and happiness are chosen responses, just like fear is a chosen response. Optimism is a paradigm of possibility. It is using my creative mind to consider how things might go well, instead of how they might fail. It is choosing to accentuate the positive in the situation. It is not denying the reality of the situation, but it is looking squarely at reality, and choosing to be optimistic.
Let me apply these four basic principles to a common stress – money.
#1 – It is not your financial situation that causes fear – it is your thought about your finance that is causing your fear, anxiety, and worry.
#2 – Go to work to get your true financial situation defined. Balance the checkbook. Tabulate your debts. Work out a budget. Know the truth about your situation. Forget about the past, you cannot change it. Don’t worry about the future, deal with today.
#3 – Create a plan of action to begin addressing your financial situation. Get some help in planning a strategy and then put that strategy into action.
#4 – Choose to be thankful and appreciate what you currently have. Consider the possibilities of achieving a positive shift and change to your financial situation. Realize that your thoughts and feelings about your financial situation are even more important that your bank balance.
I hope this has been encouraging and helpful.
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