David BeamJanuary 19, 2013 at 9:38 AM
How to Rid Yourself of the Misery of So-Called Partial Commitment
By Business Coach Dave Beam
You’ve been there. You might be there right now. I’ll ask someone, “Are you committed?”, and they will reply, “I am not fully committed, but I’m working on it” or “I’m 99% in”.
This is the most draining and tiring place to be. You have a good intention. You have a desire. You are dissatisfied. You want something to be different. You want to go for it. BUT…………..
You have some fear, or you have a competing value, or you are a bit reluctant, or you don’t know what to do. ____ might have a problem with you if you did it, or you might fail again like you always do, or …………….the list of reasons and excuses go on and on. So in your thoughts you are tossed back and forth …. In and out, up and down, sure/not-sure, maybe I’ll just try, or just give up! And it is all of this mental gymnastics and contemplation that creates the stress and weariness and bad feelings.
So what to do? First, accept the truth that commitment by definition is only 100%, and no less. There is no turning back, there is no way out, you are absolutely going to do it. You are on the diving board, and you jump. You are at the gym, and you pay them non-refundable cash for a full year membership. You are with your coach and hand him payment in full for your 6 month program.
Then realize there is a room in your brain called the committed place. It is a place of absolutes and no compromise. Doubt and fear can’t stay there. It is a peaceful place of choice, of ownership, of action, and of integrity. It is a place where procrastination, overwhelm, instability, and wavering cease to exist. You can’t find waffles and whine for dinner at the committed place!!
The good news is that right now, you can take that good intention and put it in that room. It is a simple binary choice that opens the door. It is YES or NO. IN or OUT. I WILL ACT or I WILL NOT ACT, I WILL DO IT or I WON’T DO IT. You will know you are there when you take that first step of action and begin tracking the result. There are no longer any options, excuses, confusion, and no need to decide. This place only exists in the present, never in the past and never the future. There are no wispy hopes or dreams in this place, only real action. It is a place to be and come from right now, not get to tomorrow. It is a world of action. And you hold the key to unlock the door to this place. It is called the key of CHOICE. Simply take the key, unlock the door, and take a step. You can choose to move any challenge or project or intention into this committed place.
So I leave you with your key of choice, and with a beautiful, harsh fact. If your commitment is less than 100%, there is no commitment. You have an intention that is likely surrounded by indecision, doubts, procrastination, worry, guilt, and sometimes terrible feelings of failure. And the good news is that you can grab the hand of that good intention and take it into the committed place. The war in your brain will cease, and the only thing left to do will be to take action in the present and enjoy the wonderful results!!
By Business Coach Dave Beam
You’ve been there. You might be there right now. I’ll ask someone, “Are you committed?”, and they will reply, “I am not fully committed, but I’m working on it” or “I’m 99% in”.
This is the most draining and tiring place to be. You have a good intention. You have a desire. You are dissatisfied. You want something to be different. You want to go for it. BUT…………..
You have some fear, or you have a competing value, or you are a bit reluctant, or you don’t know what to do. ____ might have a problem with you if you did it, or you might fail again like you always do, or …………….the list of reasons and excuses go on and on. So in your thoughts you are tossed back and forth …. In and out, up and down, sure/not-sure, maybe I’ll just try, or just give up! And it is all of this mental gymnastics and contemplation that creates the stress and weariness and bad feelings.
So what to do? First, accept the truth that commitment by definition is only 100%, and no less. There is no turning back, there is no way out, you are absolutely going to do it. You are on the diving board, and you jump. You are at the gym, and you pay them non-refundable cash for a full year membership. You are with your coach and hand him payment in full for your 6 month program.
Then realize there is a room in your brain called the committed place. It is a place of absolutes and no compromise. Doubt and fear can’t stay there. It is a peaceful place of choice, of ownership, of action, and of integrity. It is a place where procrastination, overwhelm, instability, and wavering cease to exist. You can’t find waffles and whine for dinner at the committed place!!
The good news is that right now, you can take that good intention and put it in that room. It is a simple binary choice that opens the door. It is YES or NO. IN or OUT. I WILL ACT or I WILL NOT ACT, I WILL DO IT or I WON’T DO IT. You will know you are there when you take that first step of action and begin tracking the result. There are no longer any options, excuses, confusion, and no need to decide. This place only exists in the present, never in the past and never the future. There are no wispy hopes or dreams in this place, only real action. It is a place to be and come from right now, not get to tomorrow. It is a world of action. And you hold the key to unlock the door to this place. It is called the key of CHOICE. Simply take the key, unlock the door, and take a step. You can choose to move any challenge or project or intention into this committed place.
So I leave you with your key of choice, and with a beautiful, harsh fact. If your commitment is less than 100%, there is no commitment. You have an intention that is likely surrounded by indecision, doubts, procrastination, worry, guilt, and sometimes terrible feelings of failure. And the good news is that you can grab the hand of that good intention and take it into the committed place. The war in your brain will cease, and the only thing left to do will be to take action in the present and enjoy the wonderful results!!
